November 15, 2024: CHOOSING WELL IS KEY!
"Permit yourself to change your mind when something is no longer working for you"
— Nedra Glover Tawwab
We humans are sometimes too prideful. We will choose to continue on a path that we know is no longer good for us, sometimes because we don't want to look like we made a mistake in the eyes of others. As senseless as that position is, many of us actually do that. We will begin a job and know fairly quickly that it is not what we really want to do, and yet we will choose to stay there far longer than we should have, before making the change that we ultimately make. Precious time was lost while we were waffling about whether or not to make the change. We do some of the same things in bad relationships. At some point in a bad relationship we know that it's a bad relationship and yet we will choose to put off ending it for various reasons. Sometimes the reason is, we don't have the courage to make the change. Or, we may be fearful of the response of our partner at the news that we want to end the relationship. We may be fearing being alone after we follow through and end the relationship. If a situation is not healthy for you, for whatever reason, perhaps your fear of staying should be greater than your fear of leaving. At various points in our lives, we have to make tough choices. Procrastinating only makes it harder to move on with our lives. One way for us to avoid potentially disastrous relationship situations, is to do our best to make good choices at the beginning. Getting involved with someone who is potentially dangerous is never a good idea. Best to use your sense of adventure for something more wholesome; even skydiving might be a better choice than a dangerous relationship. Guys, some females can be just as dangerous as their male counterparts, so don't think I'm just talking to the ladies. Good initial choices are essential for keeping ourselves happy and safe. Always remember, some adventures are not worth the potential downsides. Life is about choices, so do your best to choose well. And remember, as some wise person once said,
"The difficulty in life is the choice."
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