February 5, 2025 TIME FOR PARENTS TO STEP UP!
"The programming from your youth is not hardwired into who you are, so you can reprogram yourself."
- Detroit Flanagan
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Listen to this meditation on audio:
When you use the excuse that "that's just the way I am." You think you are being truthful, but you are not. What you are really saying is "I'm too lazy to put forth the effort to change whatever it is." There are some things that are truly immutable about us, such as our skin tone, our foot size, our height. But beyond the physical, there are probably very few things that we actually cannot change about ourselves if we want to. If you have a bad temper, it can be made less bad. If you have a habit of talking too much or talking too little, those are things that can be improved upon. Let's not be too quick to relinquish control of ourselves to fate. Each one of us has far more control of ourselves than we are aware of, or are willing to admit. If your doctor told you, "if you lose your temper, one more time and send your blood pressure through the roof, you're going to have a stroke or die," if you were interested in living, you would find a way to moderate your temper. It would take extra effort and time, but you would more than likely do what you needed to do to stay alive. The lesson you would learn once you succeeded in better controlling your temper, would be that with sufficient motivation you can accomplish something that you had previously thought was impossible. All I'm saying is, if we have enough reasons, we then have enough motivation to accomplish that which previously seemed impossible. One possible takeaway from this brief scenario might be this, parents who find themselves struggling with behavior issues from their child, might come to realize that with sufficient motivation, they meed to seek out, find, and then implement the steps necessary to regain the helm in their household. Those parents might also find out that their child would feel more secure where parents established the home structure with reasonable expectations and supplied leadership and direction. Loving and nurturing homes require parental leadership, so parents let's step up, forget about making friends with your children and do your job. Our children's future mental health and social acuity rely heavily on our ability to grow into being competent, loving parents. You can do this!
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