January 17, 2025: MAKING GOOD DECISIONS
"Decision making is easy when your values are clear." – Roy Disney
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Several years ago, when I was still doing my relationship seminars here in L.A. and a few times in Okinawa Japan for the military, in the course of making a point about decisions, I would quip that "I make all the big decisions in my house," which sparked an immediate change in body language of the ladies present. Then I would continue with "but so far, there haven't been any decisions big enough for me to make all by myself." I don't recall who I first heard say that, but it always got a chuckle out of my audience. Recent thoughts about that statement made me wonder about who is making our decisions,. That naturally led to the question "who decides what is important to me?" Better yet, who should decide what's important to me? Who decides what's important to you? Is it the daily news, opinions expressed on TV, someone at work? The reason this question is important is because many of our decisions in life, in our families, and on our jobs are decisions that are based on the relative importance of the choices we have to make. Good decision-making has a lot to do with our priorities and values; what is really important versus what might appear to be important at the time. Is watching the game really more important than spending quality time with our mate if our relationship is not as strong as it needs to be? What about deciding that the important conversation we need to have with our son or daughter regarding their behavior or schoolwork can wait? Are we making those decisions as they need to be made, or are we allowing indecision to be our decision? The quality of our family life, and indeed the overall happiness and joy of those we profess to love, heavily depend on the priorities we have established in our minds. Those priorities determine the decisions we make when deciding time is at hand. So it appears that our priorities/values are actually what determine the decisions we make. Thus, the real question, is what are your priorities; your values? It seems that we all might need to take a step back and re-examine our values and priorities are because they will dictate our decisions. What is truly important to you? May your future decisions honestly reflect your real values.
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